I woke up at 12:30p.m. today. I haven’t done this in a long time. I think I was just really drained from all the details I heard about somebody close to me.
Do you even think why a 6 year old girl has to go through verbal abuse and sometimes physical abuse, and the person abusing her is no less than the father? It’s unthinkable, but it’s possible. This revelation of E didn’t come as a surprise to us. She’s already in her late 40’s and it’s always been a wonder why she can keep going on without seeing her parents even if she’s just an hour drive away. In fact, she only see her parents once a year. Sunday night was the first time she poured her heart out. According from her, everything just came back to her when she turned 35. That’s 6 years after she moved out of the family house. She was just wrapped up, enjoying her new life and newly found freedom and happiness as a newly wed.
The abuse started from a stupid merry go round ride when she was 6, and her father took her for the ride and he broke his wrist. Not a single day passes without going through his verbal tirade. It kept up even when she was an adult already. Imagine being verbally abused because your father is envious that your friends are all getting married, and you’re not. She got married at age 29. It didn’t help, that her mother is submissive and alcoholic. She didn’t do anything to protect her daughter.
I cried a bucket when I heard details of the abuse(which are better kept un-written). Her saga continues because even if she’s now happily married, the parents continue to inflict pain on her by saying hurtful things mostly on the phone because she doesn’t see them anyway. The parents are dumb enough that they don’t acknowledge that she went through any abuse, and E isn’t courageous enough to face them and say enough is enough.
I can only hope E heals and move on with her life. She’s happily married with two teenagers. Closure will probably come when the aging parents go. There’s still time for both parties to mend. Question is, will it happen when both parties refuse and are not willing to rock the “rotting boat”?